Emotional Emptiness, With Cosmos

Last night, at a party I attended, the hosts had the TV on in the corner. Most parties, lately, have the Hawks game on or something that is just background to the goings on in the foreground. I always have stated that if you are watching the boob tube at a party---- and, it is a non-sports event playing on the set--- then, that party is headed for trouble. I can watch TV at home, whatever I may choose!!! [ I love liberty!] So, I glanced at what was playing and immediately registered what was on. Then, I turned away in a flash. If I watched what was on for a long period of time, I was afraid my I.Q. would drop dramatically and I may become a different person. The movie playing was the cinematic masterpiece, ''Sex In The City 2''........ Yes, I am a man. A heterosexual man. So, by definition of the audience that watched the TV show in its heyday, and, now embraces the movies, I cannot possibly understand this show and what it means to women. It has been lectured to me that these four women are representing the independent spirit and mindset of the modern woman. She is free to explore all that she has not been able to explore because of the male-dominated society that has held women in bondage with their actions. Now, like any argument, there is truth to this statement. Some truth, I grant you. The modern woman, educated, opinionated, strong with sexual drive, and driven to be their own person, has been kept down by the male society. I have always been in favor of the liberated woman. Fly and be free, ladies. You are women, let me hear you roar. And, the very same  liberation in the real world should also be translated into the reel world of entertainment. Let it all hang out and show us males what you are really thinking about--- fears, dreams, hidden hurt emotions, the other side of  a relationship. the whole shebang. And, when the arrival of ''Sex In The City'' came on HBO in the late 90's, I was all open to explore this world for the unenlightened male....... Except, these characters that came forward on the show made my skin crawl. Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte were so unlikable that it was an instant turnoff. They are stereotypical bubbleheads who exhibit all of the narcissistic behavior found in the worst of males. They are into fashion, shoes, sex, bad drinks, shoes, me-me behavior. Fine, everybody needs to have interests. But, those interests also show the emptiness of their souls and beings. They are so into themselves that they cannot see that real love--- be it for a man or children---- is beyond them and their empty emotional levels. They are users of people and of objects with no regard for whom they may be burning with this behavior. The fact that they exhibit that free behavior seems to be the drawing card for its confused audience........ Take, for instance, the sexual life of Samantha. Women out there seem to admire that Samantha plays by her own rules sexually and is not concerned by the  opinion of others. Fine, that is good. A person should be allowed to live his or her own life without caring what others think. But, what this character does not see--- and, sadly, her admiring audience out there watching doesn't see or understand either----- is that this is a woman who is an emotional cripple when it comes to caring for someone else. She is a user, and, like most users, they have some success with this behavior, which leads to being admired by the audience that is not quite grasping that this character is not the type of person to have as a friend. She is sleeping around, yes. But, like most males that do this behavior, she leaves a trail of broken hearts and feelings of uselessness and shame for those she has been with. Women have been the victim of this type of behavior for far too long. Why a female audience that watches this show and embraces the characters so fiercely admires this type of cruelty is beyond me......... In the brief glimpse of the movie I saw the other night, the character of Miranda seems to have reproduced twice. If this is not an example of why some adults should not be parents, then, I do not know what is. In fact, all of these ladies should never have children because they are too childish themselves. The scene I saw had the kids being brats to Miranda and interfering with Miranda wanting to go out with her friends for Cosmos. Apparently, the kids are mistaken to believe that Mom would want to raise them as any good mother would......... But, let me not just criticize the females in this show. There is the big guy, Mr. Big. He was set up in the original show as the Dream Guy. Rich, handsome, successful, and apparently, well-endowed, Carrie's guy pal is what every woman out there wants. Perhaps. But, ladies, do you not want someone who is also not such a self-centered idiot? He is so into himself that I would think his favorite Saturday Night Date is watching himself in the mirror, admiring all that is him. He only seems to have one vocal range to talk in---- low tones, purring like a Cheshire cat. He is the type of guy you meet and have to ask to have him repeat what he said because you can't understand him. And, he is also the type of guy that would not because that is not his nature. He thinks he is the coolest guy in the room and we should all know it. In a way, he is the perfect companion for Carrie. They both are incapable of being in love with anyone but themselves.......... Women have told me that one of the things they admire about this show is the strong friendship between the four. I don't see it. It seems to be a friendship based on wanting, not needing. Wanting all of the material possessions in life [and, men are a material possession to them] without getting past the fact that, yes, ''things'' are nice to have, but, a deep love for someone else is much more paramount. Love for a mate. And, love for a friend. I do not believe that these women really love each other as friends. They say they do, and, want to believe that they will always be there for each other, but, their constant quest for personal enjoyment at the expense of everyone else belies this. I look at their friendship and see that it is held together by the thinnest of strings. One small pull and they would be at each others throats. They do not really care about each other, that is surface interaction. Beneath it, these ladies would end their friendship over who did not pay what at lunch, or, more likely, one of them sleeping with the other's man........ As a male that has known and dated his fair share of women, these ladies are the type that guys really do not want anything to do with, beyond the sexual conquest. They are too full of themselves with their shallow behavior to have any kind of long-lasting relationship with. At least, with a guy that is decent to his core. And, no, guys are not threatened by a strong, independent woman, a common retort to those that defend these unlikable characters and show.  You wanna know what men really find attractive in a woman, ladies? Yes, physical appearance is one of the things. Both sexes lay claim to the fact they wanna get laid. But, what men really want is decency. Decency of character. Decency of spirit. Decency to care about the other person and not have it be something that they feel that they have to do, but, want to do. Men want to be loved as much as woman. A good woman. A woman who is not primary concerned with getting the new pair of shoes or showing the world how they should be admired, but, rather, by a woman who is herself. Men are flawed, but, so are women, and the pity of this show--- where they dropped the ball---- is not showing these flaws, mixed with genuine human caring, that make up people trying to get along with each other in this cold world....... It is an old cliche, but, it is the heart of humanity. We all need love......... The women in ''Sex In The City'' cannot understand this. They cannot see love beyond the emptiness of their lives and souls..........